MEN AND THEIR INSECURITIES

There is a believe that men can deal with almost anything ranging from providing for their significant other, carrying  extended family palava, work and project deadlines, bills, nation building and even the everyday pressures from society to be accomplished at a certain age but between you and I is it really so easy for men?

A little bird told me that a man isn`t supposed to cry that is another B.S in circulation.

I have seen so many monsters walking the malls, streets, and office corridors disguised as men. They lost their humanity because of that cliché.

Why is my husband, boyfriend, boss or colleague so hard hearted or void of empathy I have heard some women ask. My answer is simple someone told them a lie that it was a sign of weakness to show emotion and it was not masculine to be soft spoken. Guess who circulated this lie? WOMEN!

Yes we did decades ago.

If your man cried in front of you, chances that he will be tagged weak is very high. What do we really want? No man wants to lose his dignity; everyman wants to be a pillar of strength to his family. But Jesus wept so why can`t you? Simple answer…..You don`t trust her.

Yes I said so. He doesn`t trust YOU. It takes a lot for a man to break down in front of you, he has to know that you will still love him, respect him and understand him to be that vulnerable around you. I am not saying that men are allowed to be cry babies. But it took a lot for BEAUTY to bring out the gentle man in the BEAST.

A man has nobody but God when he turns 18. Simple example a bus breaks down on the 3^rd mainland bridge. In 10 minutes 10 stranded ladies will be lifted but after another hour 3 guys are still walking the bridge.

Chances that a young man gets a job based on his credentials or good looks is slim in our present day society. If he doesn’t have an influential dad he is going to need divine intervention.

When he gets the job he is going to work twice as hard as his female counterparts to stay employed and get promoted.

When he gets promoted his responsibilities increase and so does the pressures to settle down.

When he finds a woman he has to deal with her background and protective father

How many masters does she have? Will she be submissive to his authority? Will he be able to meet up with her pedigree? Will his mum like his choice ? And when he passes this stage, He starts to worry about life at 40. What he hasn’t achieved visa vis what he envisaged. His worries are endless, what does my wife think of me? God forbid he has challenges and she starts to nag.

The road is a long tiring one it is filled with challenges and trials. I salute men for their courage BUT I have to ask you some questions too.

Women say you are insecure when you marry beautiful accomplished women and monitor them endlessly. True or False

Women claim you beat your wife when you are too weak to accept failure, or responsibility. I say you do this because you bought the lie they told you in a large quantity.

Women claim your over possessive nature is a sign of inferiority complex. What do you say?

Women claim that in the present day world they are doing as much as you, and have earned your respect.

Women claim more men are abandoning their kids and soon men will be regarded as sperm donors not FATHERS.

Women claim that respect should be earned and not demanded. I wonder

I want to know why you bought into the idea that women are weak? Women are physically weaker but emotionally stronger in my own opinion. Could this be why you are so insecure?

Only a woman can manipulate you be it your mum, wife or lover. She has the ability to determine your mood. Everything you try to achieve is all towards her comfort. True or false?