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Think Deep!

This article was written for Azuka Jebose an editor i met who wanted me to be a columnist in his magazine. The magazine didn`t work out so i have deceided to blog the article regardless.

A little fairy named Cupid told me about what some of you were up to this valentine. Some relationships were appraised, Some knots tied while some discovered their soul mates. Regardless of what you hoped for I pray that you weren`t carried away by the roses, box of candies, dinner for two, gold necklace and all the razz mattaz that followed but you carefully considered those things that have a long term effect on your happiness.

What do you look out for in the opposite sex? What informs your decision that this person is worth dating or courting? What is your intention regarding the relationship and is all hell breaking lose?

Lots of people only look at the surface, looks, social status or personal achievements without looking deeply at the background of the to be lover which in most cases is responsible for whatever pleasant or nasty traits displayed.

One of my biggest turn offs is a person with severe insecurity issues.

There is nothing more unattractive than a person who lacks self confidence or even knows his/her worth. You may find yourself constantly reassuring such people of your love and commitment which often becomes very cumbersome.

People with insecurity issues may display some the following traits

1.     Low self esteem

Have you been  instructed to change your bb picture to his/hers, declare your engaged on all social sites, put up your partners picture as profile picture on fb, delete all pictures of you and the nice looking males/females  on your page, get pregnant, wear unattractive outfits etc

If deep down inside you , you feel pressured and enslaved this is not what you may want to deal with forever. He/ she will forever scritunize you and strip you of every form of colour to appease their insecurities.

2.    Extreme jealousy

Jealousy is healthy when it is not destructive. Your partner should adore you enough to not want to lose you but should not make crazy demands as a show of loyalty or a form of security.

Have you been told to discard all your friends of the opposite sex? or quit a job and be a sit at home wife? or not to say hello to the any old friend or ex while together?

No matter what you do a person with low self esteem will never be satisfied and will drag you from one level of depression to the next.

3.    Attention seekers

They are either loud talkers who always want to be noticed or they exhibit some amount of arrogance as a form of show off. If your partner uses swear words freely on a dinner table or you find yourself not wanting to be seem publicly with him/her my dear this is an indicator.

What`s more annoying than a partner who won`t let others speak or who constantly brags about acquired possessions and claims to know everyone in the upper class.
It must be difficult to be with someone who people stare at not because they are gorgeous but because they are so lousy.

Be mindful of the empty vessel.

4.    Wardrobe malfunctions

If you are constantly embarrassed by your partners appearance and he/she isn’t sensitive to this. Chances that you will eventually cheat is high.

What makes a lady attractive? Her appearance and carriage. It`s not about expensive jewelry or designer outfits but how everything compliments her personality and makes them sexually appealing.

5.                    Financial inabilities

No income is a complete turn off. Trust me, a lady of working age must occupy her hands and earn something no matter how small. Your man must work let me repeat that your man must work and earn a decent living.  If he depends on you solely for survival, you might lose respect for him sooner than later. No matter how good looking they are or how much of a sexual dynamite he is trust me the looks will fade and reality will kick in.

6.                    Educational background

Let no man deceive you the educational background of your partner matters not in determining good character but in measuring how confident they might be when peered with your friends. Can they have intellectual conversations or is he/she limited in knowledge? Is there some form of shame when questions are asked about institutions attended or is there a challenge securing a job? he/she may carry some resentment for you and your friends.

Though there is a remedy for this you have to ask yourself how patient you are willing to be with such a short coming.

7.                    Social class or family background

Does it matter? yes it does dear. We all see things from different perspectives

Then again it`s important to note that some relationships can make you insecure. In the instance where

No show of open affection, No proper introductions, prolonged courting with no sign of actual commitment, Continuous Cheating, Third party interference, Or a total breakdown in communication.

What do I do I hear someone ask?

Honestly, no one can tell you but I can give you a hint. If you can`t find happiness in your situation and you have doubts take some time off to meditate about your future which is far more important.

Spend some time away from your partner to clear your head and realize that God is the only one you can`t walk away from. It doesn’t matter how many years you put into the relationship.

REMEMBER:

Hanging out with the girls

There is no cure for low self esteem rather it can contaminate you. Your partner should be able to contain your personality in every aspect. He/she should be able to show up and represent you without you having a heart attack. He/she must complement you.

You must trust each other and entrust in each other your vision and ideas.

How do I know if he/she can compliment me?

Well, try my compatibility test if you can at least score 5 out of 6 chances that you will have fun and may even work out is high.

Do you share the same faith?  Or are you open about religion

Are you sexually compatible?

Are you socially compatible?

Are you morally compatible?

Are you attracted to him/ her?

Finally, can you settle issues with almost no interference from a third party?

Whatever you decide make sure you are true to yourself and try not to expect too much from others. There`s always someone out there for you.